Why Every Man Over 23 Should Practice Abstinence | Dai At Night

🎙️ I react to a recent reel of mine that went viral on social media, leaving some people confused about why I said that every man over 23 should practice abstinence to strengthen their discipline, leading to better judgment and higher-quality results.

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Yesterday I posted a reel on my social media and YouTube shorts talking about abstinence. How I believe I personally truly live by this. I believe that every man over 23 years old should go abstinent. And I got a few, I would say like 60% of the people understood the assignment of that reel that I released. And I say like 40% were asking why or saying that's dumb and doesn't make sense. So I want to break that down a little bit further, but first I want to play the reel for those who didn't actually see it. I think every man over 23 should go at least six months celibate. So I'm talking about not you don't get no ass anyway, so you're just gonna say you're celibate just to throw the stamp on it. No, I mean you have to turn down ass for six months because it's gonna get thrown at you, especially if they know that you're trying to be celibate or absolutely. Just to get some ass?

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Yeah.

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Oh yeah, that that you get that too. You get that too. I've done it here and there. Like I keep doing it, well, not keep doing it, but I've done it a couple times. And like one time a girl's like, Are you doing it just because you want me to f you more? Because it's working. I'm like, no, this is why I'm doing it. To work on that discipline. I learned from other people's experiences. Now that I slipped up to, I ain't gonna lie. I've had some scares, but I learned from other people's experiences. I know so many people that can't stand they baby mothers. I know so many people that are dogged by child support. I know so many people who have something, not so many people. I know one or two people in person, no. Well, unless they I don't know, but it's people that have shit that they they can't get rid of. All right, so let's break that down. Starting with the beginning. The reason why I say men over 23 is because that's usually around the age when you leave college. I think when you're in college, you should safely experience and you know what I'm saying, you should you should experience and and indulge in your sexuality. I think you should, you know what I'm saying? Because it's you gotta think about it. College, you're on a campus. If you're in a dorm, then you're on a campus, you're in a dorm, you're constantly surrounded by people your age in the late teens, early 20s. That's the last time you'll be in an environment with such close proximities to all these girls. So take advantage, like get your numbers up, like learn, like learn, learn your sexuality, like get good in bed safely. Of course, don't get none pregnant. That's the last thing you want to do in college. But you know what I'm saying, like develop your sexual skills and all that stuff so that way when you get thrown out into the real world and you won't have it as much, you'll be able to take advantage of the opportunity when it does come your way. Because when it's constantly in your face, you can mess up here and there, you can fumble, you can whatever. But when you, you know, I'm saying, when you out in the real world and it doesn't come as often, you gotta take advantage when it does. So, first and foremost, that's why I said at age 23. Now, in the middle of it, when I said, listen, you're gonna have to actually turn down ads. So if you don't get women, then don't worry about becoming absent. You gotta worry about developing yourself first. And this goes into that because it develops your discipline. But when you don't get joints, then you gotta, you gotta, you gotta, you gotta find your game, right? You gotta do the opposite of be absent if you get no joints. Figure out a way to get some joints, but don't go crazy. But you have to turn down chicks, and that's when you know you're really doing it. I had a situation once where I mean, I think every man over 23 should go at my bad. I had a situation where when I was going abstinent a couple years ago, it was a chick that legit thought I was doing at the reel her end. She was like, I ain't gonna lie, I wanna I wanna smash you more. And she thought I was playing, she thought I was running game. I'm like, no, I'm so serious. Like, I'm doing this to develop my discipline. And she wanted to smash more. I had to turn it down. It was tough, but I did it. I turned her down. Now, granted, this was someone that I slept with before, so we knew what it was, but I had to turn it down. But you know what the crazy part about that was? Bro, after my abstinence journey was done and I tried to hook up with her later, she didn't want to. See what I'm saying? It's crazy, but that's what it does. It strengthens your discipline with a woman. And when you have discipline with a chick, and when you're not pressed for a chick, that makes her want you more. I'm not saying doing it to get a chick to want you more. I'm gonna break down exactly why I said I'm doing it, but that comes with it. It does. Right? And real quick, the reason why I did it a couple years ago was because I was I wasn't working out like I should. I wasn't working on my brand like I should. I was putting everything to the back burner to chase tail. I was going broke because I was constantly buying drinks or taking them out or spending, I was, I was wasting time, money, and energy on trying to fuck some. And I was just like, damn, I'm wilding out. Like I haven't done shit for weekends. Like every weekend I was turning up just to link with a chick, just to possibly smash. You know what I'm saying? Not even guaranteed. So I'm I'm getting drunk, I'm not doing my workouts. Like I'm putting all of my I'm putting all of my positive daily habits to the side just to get some ass, just for a nut. And I was like, all right, I gotta chill, I gotta, I gotta develop my my strength and my discipline. Luckily, I'm someone that knows and I'm aware of my discipline, so I used it. Cool, and it worked. All right, bet. So that happened. Now, the reason why I said this, and like I said, a lot of people were commenting, like, why should someone do this? Why should a man go abstinence? Listen, and also what I said was I learned from other people's experiences and mistakes. I'm great at that. I'm great at that. I've learned from my own as well, but I've also learned from other people's experiences and mistakes. 1,000%. And I listed baby mothers. I got family and friends that can't stand their baby mothers. Got family and friends that are getting text by child support. I don't know anybody personally that have told me, but it's people out here that got shit that they can't get rid of. And those are just external factors, right? Having a baby mom's for 18 years that you can't stand, that you got to pay child support on. Those are just external factors from busting the nut. You were so pressed to bust the nut, this you knew this, you knew deep down this chick wasn't about shit, but she had a fat ass and you heard that she fucked good, so you wanted to hit. You knew she wasn't good deep down, but you didn't have the discipline to turn it down, knowing it was a bad joint just to smash. So the external factors is what I listed. Baby mama drama, having a kid, all that officer. That's just external. The most important part about it is the internal factors that come with it. I don't think people realize like internally how much comes with sex. Especially when someone with someone that's not aligned with you, someone that ain't about shit, someone that's a bum. Like you're observing their energy, first and foremost. You are. It's an energy exchange, however you want to look at it, rubber or not, it's an energy exchange. Not only that, it's what comes after that. After you hit something, well, at least if you hit it good, after you hit something, it's it's it's if y'all had a regular friendship or relationship, it's fractured. That's internal. Your discipline is taken away. Post nut clarity. If you hit something and a post-nut clarity hit and you regret hitting it, then what the fuck are you doing? Seriously. If you hit something at this grown age and post-nut clarity hit and you regret hitting it, what the fuck are you doing? I'll tell you what you're doing. I'll tell you what you have or what you have a lack of, I should say. Discipline, sexual discipline. I can't even lay with nothing unless like I feel good about it before, during, and after. Ain't no way. If ain't a wholesome joint, I'm not even going down that anymore. Now listen, have I was I just cracking shit just to crack shit? Yes, 1000% in high school and college and a little bit after college. But then that's when I caught myself. I ain't gonna lie, I'm gonna just be 100 with y'all. I hit this one joint and I'm like, bro, what the fuck am I doing? Like, what am I doing? I was hitting it, right? I'ma keep it all the way funky with y'all. I'ma hitting it. She was a she was kind of big, like it just didn't look like something I should be hitting. I'll just say that. I ain't hit it raw, but still I'm hitting it. And she was like, why you fucking me like this? You know how you know. And I'm just like, what the that ain't even that that wasn't even sexy. That didn't even turn me on. What am I doing? I'm like, yeah, I gotta stop. You know what I'm saying? Like, if you if you find yourself in that situation there, what are you doing? So I can't even I can't even lay with nothing that like, I mean, granted, I'm very good now with like wrapping up and I mean I'm only doing anything with one person now anyway, and you know, we we use protection, but like I I can't even like do something with somebody that like I would regret if she got pregnant. I'm not saying I want to get anything pregnant no time soon, but I'm saying if if God forbid something happened, if this chick got pregnant, how will I feel about it? I'm not going down that road no more because I've I've had some slip-ups, I've had some scares. Some scares. I swear if I get this joint pregnant, I can't even. So that's first and foremost, right? That's the external. Okay, if she gets pregnant or like if I have to feel good afterwards, I'm not just cracking shit, doesn't crack shit anymore. I'm 31 years old. It's nasty out here. You know what I mean? It's nasty out here. So that's first, but the energy exchange, like if it's a bad chick, if it's a goofy chick, if it's a bum chick, and I'm not talking about monetary, monetarily, I'm talking about energy aura, personality. If it's a bum, you get some of that. You're gonna feel like a bum too afterwards, because you observe some of that. So if you learn how to control your sexual urge beyond just trying to get a nut and really evaluating a chick for what she is, then that's powerful. Cause you're gonna have to. Because I I turn, I I'm not, I turn down joints. Like I turn down, I'm not like I'm good. Because I'm like, I can't, I have to I have a higher standard now. I can I don't just hit them, I have a higher standard. Like, would I really like if like could I could I go in public with this chick? Could I take her out? You know what I'm saying? Like, not only does she, not only you can't just look good, like can she, do she present herself like a lady? You know what I mean? You gotta really ask yourself all that before just cracking something. But that comes from the sexual discipline. But not having that can lead to, listen, when you don't have that, when you just want to crack something just to crack something, that leads to dudes catching all types of wild shit disease-wise. That leads to dudes getting joints pregnant. That leads to dudes having bad energy afterwards, that leads to dudes having post-nut clarity and regretting it. If you regret hitting a joint, then that's bad. If you got such a lack of sexual discipline that you crack the joint regardless and feel good afterward, that is bad. I've been there. That's why I say every man over 23 should practice at least six months of abstinence. Because you develop that. It'll change your outlook on women, bro. I'm telling you. Like I don't even get I don't even look, I don't even turn my net to look at certain joints that I used to be geeked for back in the days. That I used to, you know what I'm saying, run down on to try to hit. Bro, it's people that it's it's dudes that be in a club or the bar every weekend just to try to crack something that don't even be really worth their time just to get a nut. Like, nah, bro. Exercise, educate yourself, develop a craft, work on a brand if you have a brand. All that shit, if you replace the urge with that, bro, your aura grows, your muscles grow, your skin clears, your confidence grows, everything enhances, and people feel that. Women feel that, and you attract the right type. When you're moving like a bum, you're gonna attract a bum broad. How many dudes do you know that move like a bum? And when you move like a bum, you ain't you ain't getting no real money because you're wasting all your time being a bum. How many dudes that you know that really carry their lives like a bum have a wholesome chick? I've yet to see it. I've yet to see it. Now you may have a bum ass dude who got money however with your way and he gets a chick, but she ain't wholesome. I'm talking about a wholesome chick. You don't get it from being a bum. You don't. When you replace that shit, when you press to run down on shit, when you replace that with developing yourself, developing your training, eating right, drinking your water, working on your brand, being productive. When you replace it with that, you grow internally. And and physically. You see it, I get it in. Because I ain't out here running down on shit. I'm not skipping workouts to run it down with a chick. If I do hang out with a woman, it's because I took care of what I had to take care of in a day. And I see her worth hanging out with. I don't, I don't, I'm not just stepping out any type of bumass broad. Nah. Think about it like this, bruh. Remember in high school, it was dudes that had joints left and right that was just slaying chicks, and that's all they were known for. I'm not talking about dudes that handled their business, played a sport, and you know what I'm saying? Chicks just threw themselves at them and you know they would handle their business on the side. I'm talking about dudes that all they were known for was running through shit. All through high school, maybe even some middle school too. Where they at now, five, ten years later. Hella kids, multiple BMs, bums, ain't really ain't really popping on nothing. That's because that's all their energy went towards, bruh. When all your energy goes towards chasing ads, it never works out for the better. Never. Never absolutely not. You gotta use that energy on what you gotta do to grow as a person. And once you do that, your aura glows, you get the glow like Bruce Leroy from Last Dragon, and then you attract wholesome joints. You attract, you get the pick of the litter after that. But you cannot focus your energy on a joint, it never works out for the better. So that's why I say every man of a 23 should go celebrate. Hope that breakdown was good for y'all.